Powerful Tactics to Practice While Moving Through Grief
Grief has a language of its own.
It doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it whispers.
Other times it sits in your chest like a weight you didn’t consent to carry.
Grief is not just about death. It is the loss of what was, the change of what we knew, the unfolding of what we never saw coming.
It can come through endings - of relationships, roles, identities, financial security, health, or community.
And in those moments, we are faced with a sacred invitation:
To acknowledge, to witness, and to transmute.
Let’s walk through these three phases of emotional self-support - tools you can carry with you through any moment of heaviness.
1. Acknowledging – Naming the Unspoken
The first step toward healing is giving the pain permission to exist.
Ask yourself:
What exactly am I grieving?
Where is it showing up in my body?
Is this grief connected to death, disconnection, displacement, betrayal, or change?
Acknowledge it out loud, in writing, or even silently in a moment of stillness.
The goal is not to fix it - it’s to see it.
Denied grief becomes delayed grief.
And delayed grief becomes distorted energy within the body and mind.
By acknowledging the roots and circumstances around your grief, you begin to soften the tight grip it can hold over your nervous system.
2. Witnessing – Holding Sacred Space for Yourself
As human beings, we are often quick to hold space for others - but forget to do the same for ourselves.
This step invites you to:
Sit in stillness with what is arising
Let the tears fall, or the silence linger
Let your thoughts come without censoring or spiritual bypassing
Let your heart ache without needing to justify it
You don’t need to rush your way to meaning.
If you stuff your grief into the “Taboo Box” to deal with it “when the time is right,” it doesn’t go away. It waits. It festers. It spills sideways.
Instead, be your own witness.
Be present with what your inner child, inner protector, or inner seeker needs to express. It’s all welcome.
3. Transmuting – Finding the Gold Within the Grief
This is where the alchemy begins.
Transmuting doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t happen.
It doesn’t mean bypassing into “love and light” or forcing gratitude.
It means allowing your grief to open the doorway to:
Expanded perception
Deeper understanding
Fierce compassion
Unexpected wisdom
Ask yourself:
“What opportunity is hidden within this pain?”
“Can I hold both the sorrow and the gift at once?”
This balance doesn’t make your grief smaller. It makes you bigger.
Mirror Projection Perception Practice
This is a beautiful practice to bring deeper emotional awareness and transmutation into embodiment:
What You'll Need:
A quiet space
A mirror
Your voice
Willingness to be raw and honest
How It Works:
Sit in front of a mirror and speak aloud the projections and perceptions you’re carrying around your grief:
“This makes me feel scared, alone, angry, confused…”
For each one, speak a phrase of gratitude:
“I am grateful for the time and lessons I was given with this person…”
“I honour the version of me that was formed during this experience…”
For every perception, offer a counterfactual truth:
“Even though I feel abandoned, I am also learning to stand on my own.”
“Even though I feel broken, I am discovering what healing can mean for me.”
This doesn’t erase pain.
It creates space to hold both grief and grace - side by side.
A Final Invitation
Ask yourself:
What am I choosing to take away from this experience?
Am I going to carry bitterness, resentment, and anger forward?
Or am I going to honour what I’ve lost by choosing to evolve with gratitude, connection, and presence?
Grief is never black and white. It is a tapestry of emotions. A nonlinear journey. A sacred unraveling.
Everyone will walk through it differently. But the more we learn to allow, accept, and transform - the less control our emotions will have over our mindset.
Show up for yourself, even when every part of you wants to retreat.
That act alone is a revolution of self-respect.
Because when you rise through your grief - not by ignoring it, but by alchemizing it - you become the walking embodiment of wisdom, strength, and truth.
With reverence and warmth,
Chantelle
