The Interesting Predicament Behind Shunning Practices That Bring Forth Triggers Within You

It is a very human tendency to reject what unsettles us. To distance ourselves from what triggers us. To shame or shun practices, people, or ideas that stir something uncomfortable inside.

On the surface, this feels protective. Safe. But underneath, it creates an even deeper entanglement.

Because here’s the paradox:

What triggers us is also what resonates with us - on some level.

And resonance is not the same as condoning. It’s simply an acknowledgment that something has touched our field and awakened a response.

The Shadow of Suppression

When we shun without reflection, we push energy into the shadows. This is where it festers. This is where it becomes insidious.

Suppression never dissolves the trigger - it simply pushes it underground, where it continues to pull at us in ways we don’t always see. This often shows up as:

• Fatal attractions we can’t explain

• Repeated cycles of the same pattern

• An undercurrent of shame or resistance that lingers

The more we suppress, the more power the shadow gains.

Resonance Is Not Approval

To clarify: resonance does not mean agreement.

Resonance means recognition. It means something has activated you, touched a wound, or stirred a memory or belief. It means part of you has seen yourself in what’s being presented - even if it’s a part you’d rather ignore.

By acknowledging this, we gain access to a key of transmutation. We can take the raw material of the trigger and consciously reshape it.

But by shunning it without reflection, we lose the opportunity for integration.

The Role of Inquiry

The shift happens when we replace rejection with curiosity.

Instead of instantly pushing something away, try pausing and asking:

• “What is resonating here that I don’t want to see?”

• “Why has this entered my field at this exact moment?”

• “What part of me is being invited into awareness through this discomfort?”

This doesn’t mean you accept or embrace the practice itself - it means you embrace the information it offers about your own unconscious terrain.

Transmutation Over Repression

To transmute is to take something heavy and shift its frequency. To use the discomfort as fuel for growth instead of evidence of failure.

This is how shadow becomes wisdom. This is how triggers become teachers.

But when we reject and repress, the cycle repeats - often louder and more disruptive each time.

Walking the Path of Integrity

To walk with integrity means to welcome both light and shadow. It means acknowledging that what triggers us has something to teach us, even if the lesson is simply how to regulate, reflect, or reframe.

Instead of shunning what doesn’t resonate, we can choose to hold space for the question:
“What is this showing me about myself?”

This perspective shifts the trigger from an enemy to an ally.

Closing Reflection

The predicament isn’t that we are triggered. The predicament is that we deny the resonance behind the trigger.

Every trigger holds a seed. Suppression buries it deeper. Awareness allows it to bloom.

The choice is always ours: shun and suppress - or pause, reflect, and transmute.

With curiosity and compassion,
Chantelle